What Defines A Jewish Mother Part #3

Throughout the run of 25 QUESTIONS FOR A JEWISH MOTHER we are asking our audience to share with us what they think makes a Jewish mother a “Jewish Mother.” Over the course of the run I will be posting the responses we get here on the blog. If you have your own opinions on Jewish Mothers please share in the comments below or email Tellari@theaterj.org.

“A Jewish mother is a mother who loves and cares too much and isn’t happy unless her son is successful and daughter is every thing she wanted to be and wasn’t; but she has to stay at home and be a mother too.” – Arlene Lustig

“Considers her offspring to be children- no matter how old they are. Is willing to put up with practically anything from her kids, whom she considers ‘golden.’ And this is true no matter how harsh & critical she may be towards her husband, her other relatives, and the rest of the world.” – Sheila Lev-Ton

“Sound advice from my mother & grandmother: Marry a man with a sense of humor!” – Rachel Cohen

“I am a mother and, on the whole, hope I’m not a Jewish mother. The most Jewish mothers I know are not, in fact, Jewish: ’tis an unusual quality. I see it as a love that smothers rather than mothers; it’s an inability to see your offspring as an adult capable of making any decisions without your input. A Jewish mother defines herself by her motherhood, so much so that I am often tempted to tell those I define as J.M.’s to get a life! Does my advice welcome me to the club???” – Deborah Taylor

“…or a Palestinian, Serbian or Congolese mother…Fierce devotion to the children, the cuisine and the culture.” – Joel Breman

“She tells you how you feel (how you are supposed to feel), how you think (what you are supposed to think) and she exhorts her will with guilt.'” – Anonymous

“1. Over active inquisitiveness. 2. Inability to limit pushing food on family & friends. 3. Exaggerated sense of her children’s ability, intelligence, talent, etc.” – Sylvia Fesler

“Invites her family to her home for Shabbat dinner each Friday. Shows and teachers her children that being Jewish is important.”  – Sharyn Fuchs